One day last year was the first day since I had children that I can recall someone asking me what my occupation is. To be perfectly honest, the question caught me off-guard, and I paused before hearing myself answer “homemaker”. Homemaker? Wow, that sounds so archaic. What is this the 1950’s? I should have at least answered “Work at Home Mother”.
We get so wrapped up in being a mom that many of us lose what makes up the rest of us (I know I have). Don’t get me wrong, I love being a mom and I feel so blessed to be able to stay at home with my children. But at the same time, I miss working in the traditional sense more than I imagined I would (or maybe I just miss the paycheck). As a military spouse you’re often moving every 2-4 years though, so having a traditional career really isn’t even an option. Since both my kids are young still and I have another on the way, I don’t have time to be bored yet, but I often wonder what I’ll do when they are school aged. Get involved in a charity or volunteer? Go to the gym every day? Be a lady who lunches? Get a part-time job for extra income? Own a little sewing boutique?
With all these thoughts in my head lately, I’ve been thinking more about what makes me, well, me. Outside of being a mom, that is. And I really wish I knew more about what makes my mommy friends who they are outside of being a mom as well. So, here are a few things you may not know about me…
I loved school growing up. I’m book smart but have been known to lack common sense (my grandpa once told me I am “nice to the point of stupidity”). I love the beach and the sound of the waves crashing onto the shore. I spent two weeks touring Italy with my mom and loved everything about the country. I have six tattoos. I love working out, but I hate being sweaty. I love dark chocolate but don’t care for white or milk. I love cooking and baking. I hate 4-way stops and the lack of common courtesies among the general population. I can’t sit still long enough to watch a movie over 2 hours or lay out in the sun without a few good smut magazines (i.e. People, UsWeekly, Life&Style). I have a B.A. in English and an M.B.A. in HR Management. I have one brother and we have rhyming names (Dawn & Shawn). I had my first kiss at 18. I only dated 2 guys before I met my husband at 24 (on a street corner in Charleston, SC). I was married at 25 and had my first baby at 26. I was first attracted to my hubby because of his dimples. He stood me up for our first date. I have a large extended family I’m very close to. I lost my Dad to stomach cancer in 2004 and my uncle to a motorcycle accident the same year. They were twins. I know I’ll see them again someday. I love all kinds of music from Britney Spears to Gavin DeGraw to Rascal Flatts to Journey. The older I get the more of a wonderful friend my mother becomes. I believe in God and Heaven and Hell. I love reality TV chick shows. I hate waiting. I am always on time (or early). I don’t love being pregnant (but I adore being a momma). I’m a homebody and love alone time. I prefer small group get-togethers to large social functions. I am not really a morning person or a night person. I have two longtime friends named Kristy and Heather who know way too much incriminating college day info about me and whom I wish I talked to much more often. I hate camping. I love shopping, pedicures, and facials (though these things don’t happen hardly ever these days!). I took up sewing to do something just for me. I’m still not sure what I want to be when I grow up.
I’m sure, like many others, my life thus far has been full of a lot of wonderful things and some major tragedies. All these things make me who I am today so it’s hard to want to change anything, for fear of how it might change the amazing family I have today. I saw this quote recently and found it to be so true and inspiring. It challenges me to embrace life’s hiccups and use them to become a better person.
“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
So, that’s me in a nutshell. I’d love to hear what makes you, you! It’s amazing to me to find out so many of my amazing friends have experienced such heartbreak or loss and have used their struggles to become the strongest, most amazing people and mommas! Leave a comment below to share your loves, hates, and random facts about who you are outside of being a mommas. And be sure to talk to your mommy friends more about who you really are.